Walking Away - With Dignity

I am going out on a limb here and saying that my woman's intuition is slapping me across the back of the head, telling me to see the signs & move on.
I think I am officially being ignored. Its been over a week since I last heard from Iron Man.

A week is a long time - so I am going to do what every self-respecting woman does.... and walk away.

I always tell my friends to maintain their dignity and I am going to follow my own advice.

I cannot waste my time on a person who does not want me the same way I want them.
I must admit, I am sad about it, but let's face it, just because I developed a soft spot for him, doesn't mean it wasn't just sex for him - and that's how it was supposed to be.

I don't have any regrets & it is something I will always look back on & smile. (and besides, thanks to my gynae trip today - I will not be doing anything for a while now!)

I am R1000 poorer & in less pain, but at least in 2 or 3 days I will be able to walk like a normal person again and not be in constant agony thanks to Mr Bartholin! (Think this is karma's way of paying me back)
 

Mr Bartholin rears his ugly head - literally

If you have read this blog for a while, you will know of Mr Bartholin and how it plagues my cookie life.
Last year just before Thailand I had the emergency aspirating procedure and was supposed to go back for the actual operation upon my return.
I didn't.
The procedure is simply too painful and I cannot handle the slow, painful recovery. So I have left it.
It has come back with a vengeance & sitting on the plane to Cape Town for a short holiday break last week Wednesday, I was in agony.
I finally go to the gynae today and will have to undergo yet another aspiration, sans anaesthetic.
We are then booking the operation for next or the following week and I will be flat on my back for Easter.
I have so much work to do, so this will be a great way to recover and not lose too much work time.
Wish me luck - this aspiration is a bitch

Ask Jhb

I was recently on air on the radio for a feature by Guest-DJ Ian F called Ask Jhb

What a lot of fun!

As part of all my soul-searching, I decided I need to start settling down and looking for a man more my own age.

Enter AB (short for Ab Boy - 35)

I met him 6 years ago through Internet dating.
2 dates later, I thought he was too shy, quiet & decent for my liking. We ended it.
A few weeks ago I was actually thinking about him, when he contacted me on Facebook. We met for dinner, chatted about why we didn't think it would work out and I discovered that he is just shy, not actually quiet when you get to know him.

At the same time, Cutie pops up ( 23) and tells me that even though it's been a year, he has realised that he is in love with me and cannot stop thinking about me and wants to throw everything away on the off-chance that he can be with me.

Now I have a dilemma - do I try to make it work with AB or do I get together with Cutie? The hormones go mad for Cutie, AB is a more mature response - not as much chemistry, but perhaps Cutie's age makes my hormones sit up and take notice more?

So back to the radio - I am sitting there contemplating this very important decision when Ian F asks us to submit our dilemma and we then ask Jhb their opinion. Yay - I can get someone else to make my decision for me!

I go on air, present my problem and a few minutes later, Jhb has told me to go for Cutie - the younger guy.

Awesome, decision made.
Cutie and I hook up and let me tell you, he really can kiss a Habit off a nun! He makes my hormones go insane.

These young boys really shouldn't be under-estimated - they can teach us Cougars a thing or 2 about seduction!

In the meantime, AB has proven that he knows how to push the buttons that really Piss me off....
Good choice Jhb!

Harmless Flirting

Last night I had a conversation with a friend of mine about Flirting.

I am a natural flirt (hence my username) and I really don't see any harm in it if it doesn't go any further.
I can't imagine being married and not being allowed to at least flirt with a member of the opposite sex.
Look at the menu but eat at home, right?

I love having this conversation with both men and woman alike, because the opinions seem to vary greatly.

Men think there is nothing wrong with flirting, and 1 even went a far as saying that a kiss is harmless flirting... mmmh I am not sure what your girlfriend would day about that!

An ex boss of mine used to kiss other women all the time and claimed that it was harmless flirting because a: she never found about it, b: he never kissed these women in public where his wife could ever find out.

At first I was horrified, then after being in a really boring 3 year relationship, I got to thinking, perhaps kissing somebody else gives you that excitement which is lost and is just enough of the "forbidden" which keeps you from doing something worse, like sleeping with another person.

Guess it is easy to think that way when you are in a boring relationship though isn't it?

Perhaps the moral there, is make an effort to keep the relationship interesting or get out.

Woman were mostly horrified at the prospect of flirting with another man when they are in a relationship - yet I wonder how many of them flirt harmlessly without even realising they are doing it.
We women know how to flutter our eyelashes, give a beguiling smile and ta-da we get a free drink or whatever.

I like flirting. It gives me a chance to sparkle and connect with another human being. I love the delicious thrill of the clever banter and the subtle nuances that bounce back and forth.

Give it a try - Be it that hot sexy waiter, or the 80 year old man sitting next to you at the sushi counter.

Bring out your inner mischievous self - Keep it platonic and make someone feel good.

Happy Flirting!

Steamy Dreams & My Reality

Last night I had one of those Hot & Steamy dreams....

Sometimes I wish I didn't have to wake up.

We all know I am not shy about sex - I am after all a woman with the sex-crazed mind of a man - and lately with all the work stress I have not really had much opportunity. (Not as much as I would like anyway!)

21 March is a public holiday here - looks like it is a lucky day for me, I am seeing "Iron Man" again!

Woo Hoo, just what my hormones ordered!